Sunday, December 18, 2011

Marrying Thoughts

I was searching for something...and came across some articles, blogs, etc. about "I married the wrong man" theme...I found these to be thought provoking and informative.

The third article is quite lengthy....I do not advocate living together like a married couple prior to marriage. The writer gives a perspective which should cause those who are frothing to be married pause to ponder and think. Always be aware of red flags. Always. DO NOT get married because you are lonely, in a difficult situation, rebounding, the biological clock is ticking, trying to make a wrong into a right.

Always, always, always have accountability partners, godly counselors. Take your time, choosing a mate is a life long commitment and investment. Out of the mouth of many counselors comes wisdom!


#1. You pick the wrong person because you expect him/her to change after you're married.

The classic mistake. Never marry potential. The golden rule is, if you can't be happy with the person the way he or she is now, don't get married. As a colleague of mine so wisely put it, "You actually can expect people to change after they're married... for the worst!"

So when it comes to the other person's spirituality, character, personal hygiene, communication skills, and personal habits, make sure you can live with these as they are now.


“God wants to kill you,” Gungor writes in his book. “Not the physical you, but the selfish you. Jesus taught us that if we don’t die to our selfish nature, we will never be able to experience all the blessings that God wants to bestow on us. Well, if there was ever an institution designed to kill the selfish you, it’s marriage. In fact, it is virtually impossible to succeed at marriage if you don’t learn how to let the selfish part of you die.”

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